The Gift of Joy: Accepting What God Has Given

with Elisabeth Elliot Gren | September 4, 2009

How should a single view his or her singleness? Be sure to listen to today's broadcast when best-selling author Elisabeth Elliot talks about the challenges of singleness.

How should a single view his or her singleness? Be sure to listen to today's broadcast when best-selling author Elisabeth Elliot talks about the challenges of singleness.

The Gift of Joy: Accepting What God Has Given

With Elisabeth Elliot Gren
September 04, 2009
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Bob:  Not desire.

Elisabeth:  Not feeling good about this person.  But God knows how to lead you to the right person.

Dennis:  The interesting thing is, Bob, as Elisabeth has written this book at the end of each of these stories, at the end of the chapter, she’ll have reflections on how God brought the people together or reflections about the choices that people made, right and wrong. 

The thing that hit me is how mysterious our God is and how different his ways are.  And how he delights in seeing people trust him and then work out the circumstances that makes some very good stories.  Elisabeth, I want to thank you for being on the broadcast.  It’s been a delight to get together with you again and I hope you’ll join us again here on FamilyLife Today.  Will you come back and join us again?

Elisabeth:  I’d love to.  Thank you.

Dennis:  Great.

Bob:  We’ve been listening back to an interview recorded in 1996 with Elisabeth Elliot.  I was watching you during this interview and I’m thinking, Dennis has some practical application points he’d like to share with some of our listeners. 

Dennis:  When Barbara and I dated it was not really dating.  We just kind of spent time together as friends and I called her and asked her to marry me and our listeners are not going to believe this but she didn’t have any feelings for me.  It was not a commitment based upon how I had swept her off her feet.  She believed as I did that God was bringing us together as a couple.

Bob:  When you say she didn’t have any feelings for you you were friends?  

Dennis:  We were.  There was fondness in terms of nice guy.

Bob:   She was not gogga over you.

Dennis:  No, there was no physical involvement.  In fact it wasn’t until after we were married that she began to develop some feelings for me.  That’s kind of funny to admit because we have this picture of romance here. 

I think what she is presenting is a noble picture of what love ought to look like.  That picture is a couple of mature single people who haven’t lowered themselves to the standard of the culture but they embrace the book.  The bestselling book of all time, the Bible following Christ and they are spiritually in tune to what God wants them to do.  They are listening carefully so that when they find the right one as it was with us we had been hanging out with each other for six weeks.  I asked her to marry me and six weeks later we were married.  It wasn’t a commitment based upon emotion. 

Bob:  You could have written a chapter in Elisabeth’s book Quest for Love couldn’t you? 

Dennis:  Yes, and I’m thinking that there are some guys who are listening to this broadcast who would like to know what that guy’s line was that he got that girl to say yes, in five minutes.  The issue was it wasn’t a line.

Bob:  That’s right.  It was a life.  They both knew and that is what they both responded to.  They could see Christ in one another and they knew that commitment was the fundamental foundational commitment.  At least there you have something you can build on, right?

That’s part of what Elisabeth has addressed in the book, Quest for Love which we have in our FamilyLife Today Resource Center.  And it is also what she addressed in the book Passion and Purity and we have that book as well. 

Go to our web site FamilyLife and there is information on how you can receive both of these books from us.  If you are interested in getting both books we’ll send along at no additional cost the CD that features our conversation with Elisabeth Elliot that we have featured this week.

Or if it is easier to call the toll free number is 1-800-FL-TODAY.  That’s 1-800-358-6329.  That’s 1-800-“F” as in family, “L” as in life and then the word TODAY. 

When you contact us someone on our team will let you know how you can have the resources sent to you.

As we’ve reflected back this week on this classic interview with Elisabeth Elliot I’m thinking of the tens of thousands of folks who over the years have helped make these kinds of programs possible.  Those of you who help support the ministry of FamilyLife Today—either a one time donation or on an ongoing basis.  You are an essential part of the team making FamilyLife Today a reality.  We are listener supported and without your donations we could not continue to produce and syndicate this daily radio program so that it can be heard on this local station and on a network of stations all across the country.  We do appreciate your partnership with us. 

This month if you are able to support FamilyLife Today with a donation of any amount we have a thank you gift we’d like to send you.  It’s a CD that features a conversation we had a number of months ago with Chip Ingram.  Chip is an author and a pastor and he had just written a book called Love, Sex, and Lasting Relationships.  This ties in to what we have been talking about this week.  It was a very compelling conversation and we’d like to make those CDs available to you as our way of saying thank you for your support of this ministry when you do make a donation this month of any amount for FamilyLife Today

If you are donating on line at FamilyLife type the word “love” in the key code box that you see on the on line donation form and we’ll know to send you a copy of these CDs.  Or if you are calling 1-800-FL-TODAY to make a donation over the phone just say could I get those CDs about love or relationships.  We’ll know that ones you are talking about.  Thanks again for your partnership.

We hope you have a great weekend.  We hope you and your family are able to worship together this weekend.  I hope you can join us back on Monday.  Steve and Candice Watters are going to be back with us on Monday.  This time we want to talk about children and they are equally forthright about that subject.  They believe for a lot of young couples it’s time to go for it.  We’ll hear from them on Monday.

I want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, and our entire broadcast production team.  On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I’m Bob Lepine.  We’ll see you back Monday for another edition of FamilyLife Today.

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