FamilyLife Today® Podcast

Time to Talk

with Vicki Courtney | March 19, 2020
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Mother of three Vicki Courtney reflects on how the use of technology is changing the landscape of our culture, and not always for good. Increased levels of mental illness, anxiety, depression, and suicide among our teens make it paramount for mothers to teach their daughters where their worth and identity really come from.

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  • Dave and Ann Wilson

    Dave and Ann Wilson are hosts of FamilyLife Today®, FamilyLife’s nationally-syndicated radio program. Dave and Ann have been married for more than 38 years and have spent the last 33 teaching and mentoring couples and parents across the country. They have been featured speakers at FamilyLife’s Weekend to Remember® marriage getaway since 1993 and have also hosted their own marriage conferences across the country. Cofounders of Kensington Church—a national, multicampus church that hosts more than 14,000 visitors every weekend—the Wilsons are the creative force behind DVD teaching series Rock Your Marriage and The Survival Guide To Parenting, as well as authors of the recently released book Vertical Marriage (Zondervan, 2019). Dave is a graduate of the International School of Theology, where he received a Master of Divinity degree. A Ball State University Hall of Fame quarterback, Dave served the Detroit Lions as chaplain for 33 years. Ann attended the University of Kentucky. She has been active alongside Dave in ministry as a speaker, writer, small-group leader, and mentor to countless wives of professional athletes. The Wilsons live in the Detroit area. They have three grown sons, CJ, Austin, and Cody, three daughters-in-law, and a growing number of grandchildren.

Vicki Courtney reflects on how the use of technology is changing the landscape of our culture, and not always for good. Mothers MUST teach their daughters where their worth and identity come from.

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Time to Talk

With Vicki Courtney
March 19, 2020
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Bob: —and “Who determines your value and your importance?”

As parents, whether it’s moms or dads, having conversations with our sons or our daughters, to keep coming back to: “Here is your identity…”

Ann: I think for us, as parents, it’s what you’re saying, Bob—is to continue to enforce that: “This is who you are— 

Vicki: Right.

Ann: —“Psalm 139: ‘God has fearfully and wonderfully knit you together.’”

I think that we need to remember, too, the importance of our words. I think our kids blow it off like: “Whatever, Mom! I’m your kid, so you’re going to say that”; but to say, “I see the greatness in you”;—

Vicki: Yes.

Ann: —to say: “I see the way God put gifts in you,” “I see your compassion to others.” I think for us to pour that into our kids continually—they may blow it off—but it’s needed. I need that.

Vicki: Right.

Ann: I need that every day; I think that’s really important for us.

Bob: Let me recap. Here are the five conversations a parent ought to have with a daughter: you ought to talk about not letting the culture define you, guarding your heart, have a little sex respect, childhood is for a season, and you are who you’ve been becoming—again, back to identity.

Vicki: Yes.

Bob: These are the kinds of conversations that are going to shape our kids as we raise them. Vicki, you do a great job of helping us think about these things in your book, 5 Conversations You Must Have with Your Daughter. We have the book in our FamilyLife Today Resource Center.

In fact, this week, we’re making this book and our Passport2Purity® resource that we’ve developed for parents of preteens so that you can have a weekend away/a couple of days away where you take a field trip; you listen to some audio; you get them ready for the teen years. We think this is really important for parents: moms to do with daughters/dads with sons. We’re making the Passport2Purity kit and a copy of Vicki’s book available to those of you who are able to support the ministry of FamilyLife Today with a donation. FamilyLife Today is listener-supported. Your donations made today’s program possible, and what is given today will help make tomorrow’s program possible—that’s how it works.

If you can help support this program/keep this kind of conversation coming your way, we’d like to say, “Thank you for your support,” by sending you Passort2Purity and a copy of Vicki’s book, 5 Conversations You Must Have with Your Daughter—or if you’ve got sons, you can ask for her book on 5 Conversations to Have with Your Son—we’ll send that along with Passport2Purity to you. Go to to make an online donation, or call 1-800-FL-TODAY to donate over the phone; and be sure to ask for the resources we’re talking about here today so that you can plan some time together with your teenage son or daughter and start having these kinds of important conversations as the teen years approach.

We also want you to know these are stressful times for all of us as families so let’s say close. Let’s pray together. Let’s spend time reading God’s word together.

We hope you can tune in tomorrow. We want to talk about how we can communicate to our kids forgiveness and grace and hope when they blow it because they will.

Thanks to our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our hosts, Dave and Ann Wilson, I’m Bob Lepine. We will see you back next time for another edition of FamilyLife Today.

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