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Stepparenting

Grafting: A Painful but Beautiful Process for Blended Families

Your stepfamily may have another river to cross and a few more battles to face, but don’t give up—significant rewards lie ahead.

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Stepparenting Law

Stepparenting and the Law

Even though the legal rights of a stepparent over his or her stepchildren is limited, love is not limited.

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Extending Love and Grace to Outsiders in Blended Families

Extending Love and Grace to Outsiders in Blended Families

God showed His love for us by bringing the outsider in, and that’s how Christians should love the “extended” members of stepfamilies.

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Divorced Parents Can Co-Parent Peacefully

Divorced parents should constantly evaluate themselves and ask if their behavior is helping or hurting their children.

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Between a Rock and a Hard Place

Healthy leadership coalitions bolster the influence of the leaders in businesses and in families. When parents align to support each other, they lead from a position of unity. In blended…

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How to Cook a Stepfamily

Whether you realize it or not, your stepfamily has likely assumed a specific integration style. By that, I mean a set of assumptions about how your stepfamily ‘ought’ to come…

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The Challenge of Re-Sex

Sex is an important part of remarriage, but a healthy sexual relationship doesn’t necessarily result in a healthy marriage.

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13 Ideas to Manage Holiday Step-Stress

“If you think your life is hectic during the holidays, you ought to try coordinating schedules, dinner plans, and Christmas gifts with the parents of three households—most of whom don’t…

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10 Things to Know Before You Remarry

Challenges every single parent should consider before deciding to remarry.

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Dealing With a Destructive Ex-Spouse

Sarah called my office with a question I have heard a thousand times. “My husband’s ex-wife is a very unhealthy person. She attacks us frequently in front of the kids…

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Having an ‘Ours’ Baby

“Should we have a baby together?” It’s an interesting question from stepfamily couples and I’m always taken aback by it.  Couples on their first marriage never ask me that question!…

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Placing Your Spouse in the Front Seat of Your Heart

Your children will benefit when you make a strong commitment to your new spouse.

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Resurrected Pain

The holidays are hard for the Deal family. Since our son Connor died in February 2009, Christmas has just not been the same.  He was only 12 when he left…

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Setting Boundaries for a Meddling Ex-Spouse

Nicole never saw it coming. Since she had a respectful, decent working relationship with her ex-husband, she never anticipated how intrusive her fiancé’s ex-wife, Sharon, would be. While Nicole and…

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Stepparenting Teenagers

One of my favorite parent educators, Roger Allen, once said, “I have good news and bad news about the terrible 2s. The good news is that they only last around…

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Maximizing the Fun Factor in Your Remarriage

A regular dose of fun, relaxing time together is a key part of a dynamic, fulfilling relationship.

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Do You Feel Like an Outsider With Your Stepchildren?

There have been many times as a stepmom when I (Laura) felt like running away from home. The loneliness and frustration often felt overwhelming, and no one seemed to understand. In the…

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13 Tips for Divorced Parents

Shortly after my wife and I married, we went with my parents to Kenya for a brief missionary effort. My parents continued to lead an annual trip to Kenya for…

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The Loyalty Tug of War

To understand the behavior of children in stepfamilies (including adult stepchildren), you must understand loyalty and the natural tug-of-war it creates.  Cameron’s mom has been asking him for a month…

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Holiday Power Plays

Between the joy and hope of the Christmas season, some stepfamilies find themselves in frustrating power plays between homes. “Because he is on edge and doesn’t want to deal with…

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Honest Communication Is a Stepfamily’s Greatest Ally

David’s new marriage was on the verge of failure. It wasn’t that he didn’t love his wife; they just could not agree on how much responsibility their children should have….

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Stepfamilies: Is This Normal?

I’ve had the privilege of traveling to Africa a few times in my life. The rules of the road and expectations of other drivers are not like those in the…

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7 Suggestions for a Parent Going Through Divorce

It was late in 2007 when I knew that something was not right in my marriage. My wife was very distant and didn’t want to talk about our problems. She…

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Life Lessons of a Control Freak

Growing up, my parents provided for my brothers and me whatever they could, but money wasn’t always available. Yet they gave me something far greater than the expensive trappings of…

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Stepfamilies Are Different … and the Same

I’ve been a therapist working with stepfamilies for over two decades, and I often can’t get couples to understand one simple truth: Stepfamilies are different from biological families. Many couples…

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11 Ways for a Stepdad to Engage With His Family

“How tall is it?” I ignorantly asked a Kenyan missionary. “Mount Kilimanjaro is over 19,000 feet tall,” he smiled. “It’s big!” No kidding, I thought. I could see the outline of the…

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Staying Close in Remarriage

Strong couples feel close to one another because they know what to do to make that happen.

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Stepmom The Place Between Rock and Hard

When I saw the uncontrollably shaking shoulders of my stepdaughter-in-law as she wept at our wedding, I knew the stepmom life was going to be harder than I thought. Since…

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When a Stepparent Feels Like an Outsider

Did you ever play the game Lock Out on your school playground? The game begins when kids form a circle by interlocking arms. Then one person on the outside attempts…

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Autism and the Blended Family

Carol, a mother with an Autism Spectrum/Autism Spectrum Disorder (AS/ASD) child, could easily describe how hard being a single parent was. She prayed for years for a loving husband to…

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