Have you ever seen a couple’s social media PDA that made you feel sick? (Okay, it’s kind of cute.)
But seriously. Some couples are so clever and fun about how they express their love for each other in that space. I bet you’ve thought, I could never be that creative. Or at least, I’d be too embarrassed to be so sappy in a public forum.
But hey, if you can’t beat em, join em! Proclaiming your love on social media is a great way to get some brownie points going in your marriage.
In my line of work actually doing social media, I’ve observed a few easy ways you can honor your spouse, speak life giving words over them for others to see, and deepen your connection to each other. Here are a few ideas to get you thinking:
1. Set your relationship status to “married.”
Okay, this one’s a gimme. If you haven’t yet acknowledged that you’re married on social media, it’s time to change that ASAP. Go in and change your relationship status to “married,” and add your spouse’s name. It’ll be hilarious to see your friends congratulate you for “getting married” even if you got hitched years ago.
2. Take advantage of birthdays and anniversaries.
Your spouse’s birthday or your wedding anniversary is a natural time to post something sweet about your love for them. Write out things you appreciate about them. Name things people don’t know about your spouse. It is always a good idea to speak well of your spouse in front of others. Honoring them on social media during a special occasion is an easy win!
3. Post throwback pictures.
The beauty of social media is you can post old photos, too. There are popular hashtags like #ThrowbackThursday and #FlashbackFriday you can use to post old pics of you and your spouse. Things like: your first photo together, a picture from your wedding day, funny photos from their childhood, or simply one of your favorite pictures of them (hello, #ManCrushMonday).
Old photos add an element of remembrance on social media, which helps deepen your heart connection to each other.
4. Ask a photographer friend to take photos of you.
Have you ever seen the adorable photos of couples celebrating being “empty nesters?” Talk about creative.
You, too, could do something clever like that to mark a new phase in your family or marriage. Being empty nesters means getting back to just the two of you, which is definitely an occasion to commemorate.
And there’s no need to get fancy. If any of your friends are photographers, or own a decent phone for that matter, you can ask them to snap a few pics for you to document the new stage of your family.
Another idea is to recreate your engagement photos. Bonus points if you still own what you wore! Recreating any nostalgic photo will do—as long as it’s meaningful to you.
5. Create your own photo challenge
Blaze your own trail on social media by starting a photo challenge of your own. Challenge yourself to post a throwback photo of you and your spouse every day during a certain week. Write out in the caption the story behind the photo.
Chances are, it’s a special memory of the two of you together and what God was doing in your life at the time. There is great value in going back and remembering these events and God’s faithfulness to you and your spouse through the years. “I will give thanks to the Lord with my whole heart; I will recount all of your wonderful deeds” (Psalm 9:1).
6. Put something clever/funny about your spouse in your bio
Facebook offers an “about you” section and Instagram gives you a “bio” space to fill out on your profile. The last thing those spaces should be is boring. Why not take the opportunity to share something about your marriage, which is definitely an important part of who you are.
Consider adding a line like this, with the pet name you have given your spouse:
Married to my Boo Boo Honey Bee for 24 years and counting!
Married to the sugar to my sweet tea for 15 years!
This idea might be heavy on the cheese factor, but it will definitely give people who follow you a laugh. Which makes it totally #WorthIt.
7. Go digital on date night
Wherever your next date night takes you, be sure to document it on social media. Check in on Facebook at your location, or tag the venue in your post. Next, take a selfie with your spouse. Even if you’re not in a super photogenic spot, it still matters that you are taking time to intentionally date each other.
If your spouse isn’t really into being seen on social media, you can always default to a photo of the restaurant, menu, your plate of food or the sunset you’re enjoying together. Then put your phones down to enjoy some screen-free face to face.
At our Weekend to Remember® marriage getaways, we encourage couples to document their date nights, using our hashtag #FamilyLifeWTR. It’s cool to see how creative people get and that they are enjoying much needed alone time. Your friends need to be reminded of the value of date night, and this is one way to do it.
Sure, social media can be detrimental to relationships. It’s been known to ruin a marriage or two. But if used in appropriate ways, it can be a tool to actually strengthen your bond. Happy posting!
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