FamilyLife Today® Podcast

Is She the One?

with Ben Stuart | January 1, 2020
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Pastor Ben Stuart remembers the first time he saw his wife, Donna, and walks us through the circumstances that lead to their courtship and eventual engagement. Stuart talks about the importance of clarity in a relationship and tells how he made his intentions clear as his relationship progressed.

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  • Pastor Ben Stuart remembers the first time he saw his wife, Donna, and walks us through the circumstances that lead to their courtship and eventual engagement. Stuart talks about the importance of clarity in a relationship and tells how he made his intentions clear as his relationship progressed.

  • Dave and Ann Wilson

    Dave and Ann Wilson are hosts of FamilyLife Today®, FamilyLife’s nationally-syndicated radio program. Dave and Ann have been married for more than 38 years and have spent the last 33 teaching and mentoring couples and parents across the country. They have been featured speakers at FamilyLife’s Weekend to Remember® marriage getaway since 1993 and have also hosted their own marriage conferences across the country. Cofounders of Kensington Church—a national, multicampus church that hosts more than 14,000 visitors every weekend—the Wilsons are the creative force behind DVD teaching series Rock Your Marriage and The Survival Guide To Parenting, as well as authors of the recently released book Vertical Marriage (Zondervan, 2019). Dave is a graduate of the International School of Theology, where he received a Master of Divinity degree. A Ball State University Hall of Fame quarterback, Dave served the Detroit Lions as chaplain for 33 years. Ann attended the University of Kentucky. She has been active alongside Dave in ministry as a speaker, writer, small-group leader, and mentor to countless wives of professional athletes. The Wilsons live in the Detroit area. They have three grown sons, CJ, Austin, and Cody, three daughters-in-law, and a growing number of grandchildren.

Pastor Ben Stuart remembers the first time he saw his wife, Donna. He talks about the circumstances that lead to their courtship and eventual engagement.

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Is She the One?

With Ben Stuart
January 01, 2020
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Bob: When a young person—in high school, or college, or even after college—has this thought: “I think I might want to go out on a date with that person,” Ben Stuart says it’s good to follow up that thought with this question: “Why?”

Ben: I think, for all of us, it helps to clarify: “What are we doing here?” because I think a lot of people—and I know for me—I remember feeling this pressure of “Oh, I’m in my teens; I should date.” I’m like: “I’m not ready to get married at 17. What am I doing?” There was no compelling “Why?”—it’s like, “I don’t even know why we’re doing this.”

It helped me, later on, to think about that: “Why does dating exist?” It’s our modern evaluation process toward marriage. So, when I didn’t feel ready to get married, then I’m like, “Why would I date somebody?”

Bob: This is FamilyLife Today for Wednesday, January 1st. Our hosts are Dave and Ann Wilson; I’m Bob Lepine. If you’re dating someone right now, is it just for friendship and recreation, or is this a marriage evaluation period? We’ll talk with Ben Stuart today about principles for wisely evaluating dating relationships. Stay with us.

And welcome to FamilyLife Today. Thanks for joining us on the first day of a new year!

Ann: Happy New Year!

Bob: I know.

Dave: Happy New Year!

Bob: I know.

Dave: I’m excited.

Bob: Well, I’m excited too. I’m excited for what we’re going to hear about today because we’ve been hearing, this week, about dating and about relationships and how you move from single to married and how you do it in this context. Ben Stuart—we’ve been listening back to a conversation we had with him earlier this year that was just a great conversation.

Dave: Oh, he is just fantastic.

Ann: Yes; he’s really a—

Dave: The wisdom that he brings—I mean, I’m not in the dating scene anymore—neither are you, Bob—

Bob: Right.

Dave: —we’re done; but no; seriously, the wisdom that he brings—you want every single person to hear.

Ann: And we’re making New Year’s resolutions today; so, maybe, this could be a good one, like: “Hmm, how is my dating life going to look this year?”

Bob: —or a resolution, like: “I need to ask her out,”—

Ann: Maybe.

Bob: —or “I need to stop doing some things that I’ve been doing.”—that kind of stuff.

Ben is a pastor, who lives in the Washington, DC, area—pastor of Passion City Church in DC. He has written a book called Single, Dating, Engaged, Married, which is what we were talking with him about. We should just say, here at the front end, we want to say a “Thank you,” to those of you who, over the last few weeks, have responded to what you’d been hearing about on FamilyLife®.

Here, on the first day of the year, we don’t have the final numbers in about our matching-gift campaign; but we’re so grateful, because we did hear from a ton of radio listeners. “Thank you,” to those of you, who said, “FamilyLife Today is important, and we want to stand with you guys.”

Dave: Don’t forget; your donation is changing lives.

Bob: Yes.

Dave: I don’t know if we always think that. Sometimes, when I give, it—you know, you sort of give and forget. It’s like, “No; this is—this is changing legacies”; and we couldn’t be more grateful. Thank you.

Bob: Yes. Well, we’re going to pick up Ben Stuart’s story/our conversation with him at the point where he was a well-known, notorious bachelor in his church. [Laughter] All of a sudden, he asked somebody out; and that became big news for everybody in town—that: “Ben was taking out a girl!” and “Are they…”—well, he’ll pick it up from there.

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Ben: So, this was great—I met Donna. We were both serving at this event. Her band was leading worship, and I spoke. That was the first time I saw her. Then, this group would go out to dinner afterwards. Maybe, once a month for a couple of months, it was social—hanging out. Then, I turned the corner of: “I’m going to ask her to go on a date.”

Bob: Yes.

Ben: And I did it. I thought [whispering], “Very few will know.” We got in the car—I had this date planned and, literally, get in the car; and the phone starts buzzing; I pick it up. It’s this dear couple that has been like family to me. They had just had a baby—the baby’s heart was racing at a scary level, and they were rushing down to the hospital in downtown Houston. It was the kind of thing, where it’s not—you know, you don’t just turn it off.

Bob: —you don’t go on your date; yes.

Ben: I look at her, and I’m like: “Plans changed. I’ve got to go to the hospital. I can turn around and drop you off; but here’s the thing—I need to go; or if you want to go, you’re certainly welcome to.” She’s like, “Let’s just go.” I’m like “That’s awesome.” We roll down there; and we’re walking in, going, “These people might lose their baby.” It’s pretty—like, “You don’t have to do this. Like, we can….”; you know.

We walk in, and their whole community—which was my church community—was there, in the waiting room. I walk in, with this girl, clearly in date clothes; and everyone’s real somber—like this is real serious: “Wait; what?! Who is that?” I’m watching this dynamic like, “Oh man!” [Laughter]

Dave: “There goes the secret.”

Ben: Yes; [Sounding disappointed] so, it’s great.

Bob: Word is out that Ben, the confirmed bachelor—

Ben: Yes.

Ann: —is on a date.

Ben: Baby turned out fine, by the way.

Ann: I was going to ask—

Bob: Praise the Lord.

Ann: —“How is the baby?”

Ben: Baby turned out great. He’s doing real good.

Ann: But look at Donna going with you!

Ben: Look at her. And I left her in the waiting room with all those people when I went in there to pray for the baby.

Ann: And I bet they loved her.

Ben: I’m like [whispering], “Good luck!” [Laughter] Yes. But yes, man; word got out; and I just got, again, some select people to speak into it. There were other people that were like, “Oh, man, I want to buy you this book!” I’m like [Reluctantly mumbling], “Oh, yes, yes….” So, there are people—you just don’t need it; don’t need it.”

Bob: How did you navigate from first date to what they call a DTR [define the relationship], where you’re having a conversation about “What are we doing here?” Did that happen quickly with you and Donna?

Ben: Yes; I was great at it, Bob; [Laughter] because I had done it so many ways wrong—so many ways to fall off the horse—but there’s one way to stay up. I felt real good about it, because what I would do—I would try to be clear on what I was asking her to.

I would say things like “Hey, my brother’s got this party going on, and I need to bring a date. I would love to bring you. Do you want to be my date to this?” I would even drop that word in, just so she would know what it is—not like, “You want to hang out or whatever?” I would just be like, “Hey, let’s go do that”; and she’d say, “Yes.” Then I would drop her off and wouldn’t make it this big—like throw it [the car] in park and go, “Okay.” I would just, at the end of the date, I would look and go: “Hey, that was really fun. I enjoyed it. Do you mind if I call you this week?”

She got out of the car; and, now, she knew what was coming. Because I knew what she was going to do—she’s going to go with all her friends [speaking quickly]: “How did it go? What are you going to do? Are you going to text him?” She had something to say, “He told me he’d call. So, he’s going to call.” She knew it. I was clear. It kept all that anxiety out of her that I hear from young girls all the time: “Well, am I supposed to reach out to him? Am I supposed to text him?” She knew, “He’s going to call me, and I’m going to wait for that.”

Bob: You were being a man.

Ben: Yes! And I was helping her not experience chaos and anxiety. It’s a way to love people—the Proverb says, “An honest answer is a kiss on the lips.” It’s a way to honor somebody—to be direct. Then, every like third or fourth date, I would say something like: “Hey, I’m really enjoying getting to know you. I’m not ready to get married in the next six months or something in life, but I’m really enjoying getting to know you.” Then, I would sometimes throw things in like: “I trust God with your life and with mine. I just want to go where He’s going; but if you’re comfortable with it, I’m going to keep calling you.”

Ann: And there’s no kissing/there’s nothing physical going on at this point?

Ben: No, no; just because there are different motivations for that. One thing I believe strongly is—you’re releasing so many powerful chemicals when you start messing with somebody’s body—I mean, dopamine firing and all that. It messes up the evaluation process. I mean, dating is evaluating: “Do I want to hang out with you?—until I die!

Ann: It’s pretty big.

Ben: It’s all the other stuff we’re trying to figure out—like, “Do I want to talk to you for

40 years?”—I’ve got to figure that out—so “Hold off this physical part,” and “Can I see: ‘Can we relate?’ ‘Do I enjoy you?’ ‘Do we enjoy talking to each other?’” We fought for that.

Bob: Your wife had to like the fact that you were being intentional about talking about these things and doing it, proactively, rather than just leaving it ambiguous.

Ben: I told a buddy of mine to do this before I was dating somebody—he was my test case. [Laughter] It was, “This is what you got to do.” I said this very authoritatively; yes—

Bob: “You do this”; I’m going to see if it works.

Ben: —and then, I watched, carefully.


Dave: —like you know what you’re talking about.

Ben: Yes; oh yes; I was very convincing.

He did it, and they got engaged. I remember interviewing his wife, afterwards, about how his dating went. She said, “You know what? He was so good at clarity in the dating process. I always knew where I stood, and it was one of my favorite things about him.” I’m like, “Yes.”

Dave: Did you say, “Hey, that was me”?

Ben: No. [Laughter]

Dave: He was good at clarity—

Ben: I felt it inside.

Dave: —because I put a little chip in his ear, and I told him what to say.

Ben: What was the point? Yes; she was married to him.

Bob: The other side of that is: If you’re in a dating relationship right now, and there is a lack of clarity, and it’s been going on for a while, a huge red flag ought to go up; right?

Ben: I completely agree with that; yes.

Bob: And if you’re in that, and you’re the man or the woman, do you say, “Time out. If this is going to keep going, we’ve got to have some clarity”?—do you have the DTR?

Ben: Yes; I think you have to.

Bob: Yes.

Ben: Yes; I think, for all of us, it helps to clarify: “What are we doing here?” I think a lot of people—and I know for me—I remember feeling this pressure of “Oh, I’m in my teens. I should date.” I’m like, “I’m not ready to get married at 17. What am I doing?” There was no compelling “Why?” It’s like, “I don’t even know why we’re doing this.” It helped me, later on, to think about that: “Why does dating exist?” It’s our modern evaluation process toward marriage. So, when I didn’t feel ready to get married, I’m like, “Why would I date somebody?”

Dave: Yes; but you’re the—I mean, I’m listening to your story—I’m thinking, “There are women out there, thinking: “There’s not another guy like Ben on the planet. You were like the perfect guy.” [Laughter] Of course, we all know the dumpster fire years—and it took you time—but what do you say to those people? Are there guys that can do/are there women that will do it like you’re talking about?

Ben: Yes! What’s crazy is—every year of my life, the last 20 years—I’ve had a Bible study of young men in their 20s that I meet with. These are wonderful gentlemen, godly, lion-faced men. They are amazing.

Whenever women come up to me and say, “There are no good guys.” I’m like, “There are no good guys where you are, but I know a lot of them. Don’t believe the lie,” because that’s what I think it is. People just believe the lie nowadays of “This is the best it can be. This is just what dating is now.” I’m like, “Don’t believe that; that’s not actually true. There can be a better way.”

Ann: It’s also assuming God doesn’t care about this area of our lives, and He does care. He cares; He knows. He’s in it, and He’s applauding it to when it’s going right—like, “Yes; this is going to be good.” But it’s hard to wait on God.

Ben: Well, and I even think of—for me, it was mind-blowing—the longest chapter in Genesis, Genesis 24, is about finding a wife. It’s the longest one in Genesis. Abraham’s criteria is: “Don’t get a woman from the Canaanites. She’s got to have an allegiance to God, and she has to have the willingness to walk by faith to come back here.” That’s the criteria; but he sends a servant 500 miles to go get her. He realized that; he looks around like, “Man, these women around here are nuts. Go find a good wife.” The dude walks 500 miles.

So, whenever someone says that to me, like, “Oh, there’s no good guys around here,” I’m like: “Move! If there are no good guys at your church, bounce. Get out of there. Go to a different gym. Go to a different church—

Bob: “Have you checked within a 500 mile radius?” [Laughter]

Ben: —“walks 500 miles!”—you know?—like, you know, you may have to. That doesn’t mean: “Okay, everyone move across the country now”; but it does mean they are out there.

Bob: So, there was a point in your relationship, you said, with Donna—you were telling her: “I like you. I like spending time with you. I’m not thinking about marriage anytime soon…” Then, there had to be a point, where you went, “I’m starting to think about marriage.”

Ben: Yes. So, for us, the tension entered that she had this music career that was getting traction. I was feeling very strongly called to go to seminary, which could move me anywhere in the world. You know the two longings of the human heart, belonging and mattering: “I’ve got to have a purpose. I’ve got to have a people.”

Suddenly, our passions and purposes go, “These may not be going the same direction.” I didn’t know how to process that. We had these full summers of—I was handing off my youth ministry; she was traveling, all over, singing. I said: “You know what? Let’s just take the pressure off of like: ‘We have to talk every night on the phone,’ ‘You should call me,’ and ‘You should email me.’” I said: “Let’s not do that. I need to slow the process down. Can we just write letters?”

Some of her friends thought that was crazy; but I just knew, for me, I emotionally process slowly. Even now, in my journal, I write at the top: “How do you feel?” People laugh about that; because I have to ask myself because I’m unclear: “How do you feel?” “I don’t know. I think I’m a little angry maybe,”—it just takes a while to figure it out.

So, for us, we took the summer; and we wrote—like, physically, wrote letters/physically put them in the mailbox. I told her, “Only one at a time—like one from me to you; then one from you to me.” What happened is—I gave myself distance and time.

Ann: And what did that do?

Ben: Distance and time are wonderful tools to figure out what’s going on in your heart; because I think one of the things you want to find is: “Is there a growing sense of commitment?”

I mean, I remember I had—remember, I said all my buddies got married before me. I’d ask them, “How did you know?” And they’d be like “You just know.” I’m like, “That’s colossally unhelpful.” [Laughter] I really pressed one of them—he said: “You know how I knew, Ben? We would run into problems, whether it would be a communication issue or some problem, and I found, within myself, ‘Man, I just want to get to the other side of this problem and work it,’ because I wanted deeper unity.”

He said: “You know, when you would date some other people, and you’re telling yourself ‘Oh, they’re cute. Her mom thinks I’m great’; but every time you argue, you’re like, ‘Man, this is just a matter of time.’ You feel like this isn’t going to work.” He said, “With her, I’m like, ‘How do we get past this so we can get unity again?’” He said, “I found a growing sense of commitment.”

For me, with that distance and time from Donna—I remember I was on a boat—4th of July, watching the fireworks go off—and I was like “How do you feel?” I was like, “I’d rather be with her than without her,” and that’s what I needed. I needed time to figure that out. After that, I didn’t really mess around; came back, took her on a date, and was like: “I’d rather be with you than not. If there’s an obstacle, let’s figure out our way through it; because I want you.” But I needed that time.

Bob: I remember telling people: “When you’ve been with a person, and seen them at what you figure has got to be pretty much their worst—I mean, you’ve seen it bad; and you’ve been there long enough to go, ‘Okay; they can only fake good for so long, and then you’ll see the bad stuff.’ When you see that and you go: ‘I still want to be with you, even though this is how you can be; I still want to be with you,’ that ought to be a little bit of a trigger that there’s something deeper than just, ‘This feels good in the moment, happening here’”; right?

Ben: I think that’s one of the factors. I think there [are] a couple; but that’s a big one. Song of Solomon talks about that—like: “Love is as strong as death.” When death grabs something, it doesn’t let go. That’s why they say that—you’re going to stand on a stage, in front of God and everybody, and promise: “…in sickness and health unto death do us part.”

You don’t want to hope that’s true. You want that to be rising up from inside you. So, you need to start seeing that, in yourself, while you’re dating: “I want to be with this person, even if they get really sick,” “I want to be with this person, even if he loses his job and can’t find another one,” “I want to be with this person unto death.” You want to feel that so, when you’re saying it on stage, “Yes; I mean that.” You’ve got to find that in you.

Bob: You said that’s one thing. What else do you think is in there?

Ben: I think the other thing is, externally, communication—like: “Can you navigate conflict well?” I see that in couples. They really love each other/really want to make it work; but every time they argue—Proverbs says, “Rash words are like the thrust of a sword,”—like: “Y’all are dangerous. You’re just hurting each other. You’re always going for the win/going for the throat.”

Before you get married, I would encourage you—figure out how to communicate in a way that is moving you toward unity, not just victory, in the argument. You’ve got to do that.

And then the last thing, I think you’ve got to survive a moment of confession. I think you need to be able to—like you were saying—see some of the worst parts and say, “But I want you anyway.” I think that helps you because, when all of us have those parts in us we want to hide—and when you share that dark, sad part of you—and then that person looks you in the eye; and maybe they cry, but they say: “I’m sorry that happened to you,” or “I’m sad about that, but I love you and I want you anyway.” When they say that to you, that is such a powerful bonding agent. I think you want that.

Bob: Did you have a moment of confession?

Ben: Yes; we did. I think you have to be careful with it. That’s where your community helps you: How much information do you share that you’re not suddenly creating chaos?

But yes; I think you need to have an honest moment about: “Here’s some decisions I made, relationally, in the past.” It’s scary to do that; but when we both did that and realized, “Okay; I know the worst, and want you any way,”—“Oh man, I just know, now, this girl’s mine and I’m hers. Set me like a seal in your arm.”

I’m not worried. And I’m not trying to redact statements, later in our marriage, like, “Oh yes; I forgot I never told her about that.” There is no “I never told her,”—there’s no hidden part of Ben with Donna. There are other people that don’t get to know all of me, but she gets to know all of me. I think you want that.

Bob: Because if you don’t have that, here’s what you wind up with—you wind up with: “She loves the part of me she knows; but if she knew the other part of me, I don’t know that she’d love me.” If you’re going through marriage with this: “There’s this hidden side of me and, if she found out, I’m not sure she would still love me,” there’s never oneness; there’s never real intimacy in that relationship.

Ben: You didn’t get what you want.

Bob: That’s right.

Ben: What you want in marriage is that sense of community—that “Someone deeply knows me.”

Bob: Fully-known and fully-loved is what you want.

Ben: Yes!

Ann: —as much as you’re aware of because, sometimes, you’re not even aware of some of the things that you have.

Ben: Which is true, totally; yes.

Ann: And so—but even being willing to expose those; and to allow your spouse to see them, and to make the decision of loving you in spite of.

Dave: And obviously, your moment of confession is not date one or date three—

Ann: Exactly!

Dave: —you’re way down the line. Coach some people up. You’ve got a community to help you, but we blew it in this area. I shared way too much—stupid/naïve.

Ann: We, basically, did everything wrong. [Laughter]

Dave: Yes; we did everything you didn’t do. [Laughter] But I think there are singles out there, going: “How much do I share? How honest do I get? What’s too far?”

Ann: I’m the kind of person—I really want to know people.

Dave: It’s her fault; it’s her fault!

Ann: So, I will ask questions that go down deep, and you’re just answering my questions; but how do you do that?

Ben: You probably asked too many. [Laughter]

Ann: I did that.

Dave: She did; she still does.

Ann: I do that to everybody.

Ben: For Donna and [me], dating is evaluation. You’re getting to know each other and “What are you looking for?” You know, Song of Solomon—what do you see? There’s excitement there. There’s life. It’s springtime: “Let him kiss me with the kiss of his mouth. He’s like a stag, leaping over the hills.”

You want to feel like: “I like being around this person. I’m excited being around this person. There’s growth. It’s like springtime. I’m a better person around you.” I think you wait until you see that: “I’m becoming the best version of me by being around you.”

Ann: That’s a great point.

Ben: “You’re sharpening good things in me. I’m sharpening good things in you. It’s springtime when we’re together.” I mean, I’ve seen two people that are great apart; you get them together, and it spirals down. You go, “Y’all aren’t a good match.”

That’s what you are looking for: “Is there excitement? Is there life? Do we want to be in this thing? Are we communicating well?” I think when you’re getting that—where you’re like, “Really, I’m like starting to look at rings,”—I think you’re waiting until that moment—until you go, “You know what? I need to tell you some things.” For me, I think getting some godly mature people around you, to say, “Hey, I need to tell him about ‘A,’ ‘B,’ ‘C,’ and ‘D.’”

Bob: When did you tell Donna, “I love you”?

Ben: —not until I got her a ring. We decided to hold off on that. We were about that with the word, “I love you.” I just—to me, I was like, “Something has to be sacred in this world.” The word, love, is pretty sacred.

Bob: I wish somebody had told me that when I was in junior high; right?—because I was so casual and trivial with it that it meant nothing when I said it.

Ben: Yes; I wanted it to have weight. So, the word, “missed,” started taking on far more weight than it does in a normal conversation: “I miss you A LOT.” [Laughter]

Dave: —code for love? [Laughter]

Bob: I told my boys, when we were raising them—I said, “When you say to a girl/when you’re ready to say to a girl, ‘I love you,’ the very next thing you have to say is: ‘Will you marry me?’”

Ben: Yes.

Bob: It’s like, “You can’t say this until you’re ready to say that.”

Dave: Did they do it?

Bob: I don’t’ know. I think, if they didn’t, they got real close to holding off on that and recognizing the sacred nature of that.

Ann: I think a couple of our boys did that, too.

Bob: I’d been foolish with it. I told Mary Ann I loved her on like our third date or something. What I meant was: “I like spending time with you. This feels really nice. I love it!”—kind of like: “You know what? I love you.” I was casual with it—stupid.

Ben: Well, and the good news is y’all made it. That’s the good news in all of this—is like we feel comfortable admitting failures because you know: “I’m forgiven.” There’s always a chance with God. He’s—

Ann: —redeems it.

Ben: He’s redeeming people and healing, and you need that.

Bob: Did you think about calling your book Ben’s Big Dumpster Fire?—[Laughter]—because I think—[Laughter]

Ben: No.

Dave: It’s in there!

Bob:Ben’s Big Book of Dating Mistakes could have been a part of that.

Ben: That could have been a book. I don’t know who would want to read that one. [Laughter]

Bob: Well, here’s the point—what you’ve shared in this book—which is not called Ben’s Big Dumpster Fire—it’s Single, Dating, Engaged, Married by Ben Stuart. What you’ve done in here is—you’ve shared enough of your story that we can learn from the good, the bad, the ugly; but you’ve also brought it to bear in modern culture.

I would love to think that—starting in high school, and all the way through the 20s and into the 30s, if it goes that long—people are reading this, going back, and reading it again. As you said, Dave, reading it in community, with other people—making this something that they’re spending time—this is a gift you’ve given.

Dave: Yes; I was just going to say, “What a gift,”—and not just the singles—but think of parents—to get a tool like this to help their kids do it right.

Ann: Yes; and it’s inspiring, Ben.

Ben: Well, thanks.

Ann: It’s inspiring to hear your story—and how, maybe, it didn’t start out right—but man, you’ve done a really good job. I love that, what you’ve learned, you’re giving away. Thank you.

Ben: Oh, thanks, guys.


Bob: We are really hopeful that what you’ve shared here and what you’ve written in your book is going to challenge and equip and encourage a lot of people/a lot of singles, who are trying to figure all of this out. We’ve got copies of Ben’s book available in our FamilyLife Today Resource Center. The book is called Single, Dating, Engaged, Married. The subtitle is Navigating Life and Love in the Modern Age.

You can find out more about the book or order a copy from us, online, at Again, our website is to order a copy of Ben Stuart’s book, Single, Dating, Engaged, Married. Of course, our offices are closed today because of the New Year holiday; so the best way to get in touch with us is online. We’ll be back up and running tomorrow. If you want to give us a call, you can do that then; our number is 1-800-FL-TODAY.

We want to take just a minute here, as we begin a new year, and say, “Thank you.” Thank you to those of you who, over the last several weeks, responded at yearend and said: “We believe in the mission of FamilyLife. We believe in what you guys are about. We are excited to hear ways that you’re connecting with the next generation and bringing practical biblical help and hope to marriages and families and to single people trying to figure it all out.”

Here, at FamilyLife, that is our goal: We want to effectively develop godly marriages and families. We believe godly marriages and families can change the world one home at a time. We’re still waiting for letters to come in the mail over the next couple of days. We don’t have a final tally on our donations at yearend; but we’ll keep you posted on how we did with the matching gift amount during the month of December.

Thanks to those of you who donated, and thanks to those of you, who donate regularly—Legacy Partners who support this ministry on an ongoing basis—or those of you who will just, from time to time, make a donation. We hope you’ll continue that in 2020. We look forward to a great year ahead.

We hope you can join us back, again, tomorrow when we’re going to talk about how the gospel applies to raising kids—especially young kids. Rob and Stephanie Green will be with us tomorrow. I hope you can be with us as well.

I want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our hosts, Dave and Ann Wilson, I’m Bob Lepine. Have a great New Year’s Day. We will see you back tomorrow for another edition of FamilyLife Today.

FamilyLife Today is a production of FamilyLife of Little Rock, Arkansas; a Cru® Ministry. Help for today. Hope for tomorrow.


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