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A Woman's Emotions

We are made in the emotional image of God, so we shouldn't be afraid of those feelings when they crop up.
By Barbara Rainey

Early in our marriage, my husband, Dennis, and I were completely caught off guard by the emotions I began feeling. I remember the first time I was angry with Dennis. I had never felt angry with him the entire time we dated, were engaged, or in the early days of our marriage.

I remember thinking, What do I do? Where do I go? Dennis was pursuing me to resolve our conflict, and I was so confused that I went into the bathroom, shut the door and thought, I can't get out of here. I'm stuck in this relationship.

I held the future of my marriage and my family in my hands.

We know we are created in the image of God, but many of us don't realize our emotions are a significant part of God's image imprinted within us. Women need to feel comfortable with who they are emotionally.

And this isn't easy, because many women aren't prepared to anticipate or handle the difficult challenges that are a part of being a wife and mother. Each new season of life—early marriage, pregnancy, raising young children, etc.—brings a new set of joys and difficulties, and many women are surprised by the intensity of their emotions.

As a woman experiences the various emotions in her daily life, she needs to feel loved and accepted by her husband. We are made in the emotional image of God; we shouldn't be afraid of those emotions when they crop up.

When I faced that early crisis in my marriage, I decided my relationship, which was a covenant I'd made to God, was too important not to work it out. So after stewing and thinking and praying, I left that bathroom. After some real communication, Dennis and I resolved the problem.

The next time you find your emotions have you feeling "stuck" in your marriage, don't stew in a bathroom. Talk it out. Resolve the conflict. Why? Because God designed marriage to be a covenant relationship, a safe haven, in which a man and woman can work through their emotions and glorify God in the process.


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Meet the Author: Barbara Rainey

Barbara Rainey is a wife, mother of six adult children (plus three sons-in-law and two daughters-in-law), and "Mimi" to nineteen grandchildren.

After graduating from the University of Arkansas with a Bachelor of Arts degree in history, Barbara joined the staff of Campus Crusade for Christ in 1971. She and her husband, Dennis, whom she married in 1972, are co-founders of FamilyLife, a ministry of Cru that is headquartered in Little Rock, Arkansas.

Barbara has published articles on family-related topics and is the author of Thanksgiving: A Time to Remember and When Christmas Came.  She speaks at FamilyLife's Weekend to Remember® marriage conferences and is a frequent guest on FamilyLife Today®, a nationally syndicated, daily radio program.  She and Dennis are the coauthors of several books, including Growing a Spiritually Strong Family, Starting Your Marriage Right, Moments Together for Couples, The New Building Your Mate's Self-Esteem, Parenting Today's Adolescent, Rekindling the Romance, and Moments with You. She co-authored A Mother's Legacy with her daughter, Ashley Rainey Escue and joined Dennis and their children Rebecca and Samuel on the book So You're About To Be A Teenager. Barbara has also co-authored Barbara and Susan's Guide to the Empty Nest, with close friend Susan Yates, and A Symphony in the Dark, written with her daughter, Rebecca Rainey Mutz. And Barbara has written a series focusing on character traits for families, including the titles Growing Together in Gratitude, Growing Together in Courage, Growing Together in Forgiveness, and Growing Together in Truth.

Having faithfully served alongside Dennis for more than 30 years, both in ministry and at home, Barbara has recently launched a new endeavor called Ever Thine Home™.  This new line of products, including Christ centered ornaments for Christmas, teaching tools for Lent and Easter, and beautiful additions for your home for thanksgiving and year round makes it easy to express faith at home in a way that is both biblical and beautiful.  Her heart for Ever Thine Home is based on the familiar Old Testament instruction:

"And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates." (Deuteronomy 6:9, ESV)

You can read more about Barbara's work at

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